I don’t have a free weekend until January 2016. Read that again, and then roll your eyes at the utter ridiculousness at that statement. I know I’m an idiot, and I’m particularly an idiot because I’m someone who depends on rest and self-protection, and I’ve failed myself.
But I’m not the only one. This week I contacted three of my friends, friends who I feel like I haven’t seen in a while. I suggested a mid-week pizza or post work drinks, knowing I was busy but thinking I could make it work. What I discovered is that everyone else is just as busy as I am.
When did this happen? When did we all get so busy?
Maybe it’s always been this way and I just didn’t notice it because I was young and lived day-to-day. Oh who am I kidding?! I can’t even believe I just wrote that sentence! I have never, ever lived day-to-day. I am the least spontaneous person in the world. Is it just that everyone else has become less spontaneous in their old age?
Recently a group of bloggers tried to plan a mid-week get together. We started the conversation in July, and we’ve agreed on a date in October. Doodle has now become my favourite thing in the world.
I miss my friends. I miss seeing them for a coffee and a chat, or a couple of drinks after work. Don’t get me wrong, I love a whole weekend away but how great it would be to have my favourite people around me all the time. At school, your circle of friends all live within 5 minutes. At university, your friends live with you. And then adult life starts and by the time you reach thirty, well, your friends are everywhere. My friends are in different cities and in some cases, different countries. My sister’s in a different time zone. And as much as you’re desperate to see them and make plans to talk, you also have work and blogs and plans and REST! A girl’s got to rest!
I also miss having date-days out and about with my man-friend, which doesn’t happen very often because of all the plaaaans. I saw this post on five minute phone calls and thought, maybe this is the way forward.
I don’t have a solution to any of this, other than usual: be stricter, prioritise, look after yourself and don’t neglect those you love. Simples, right?